Clique or Community?
These are exciting days and times in my life. My family and I are approaching one year with our church. It’s been a pretty incredible ride. It was awesome to sit there for a while healing and breathing without any expectations, but the time for that is over. We are finally settling in and seeing where the Lord can use us.
One of those areas is in small groups. We have been part of one for a few months now, but that season seems to be winding down. I was asked to help start and lead a new small group as we try to include everyone in our church in a group.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t inherent dangers involved in a small group. I’ve seen it before and I will probably see it again. We have all seen versions of it in our lives. It may have been in middle and high school. Perhaps college. Maybe it has been an entire church.
The group becomes a clique.
The simplest definition of a clique is a group that forms and becomes exclusive. They rarely, if ever, include someone new in the group.
It is a danger in any group of which we are a part. We become satisfied with the status quo of those we have joined with and we don’t want anything or anyone to disturb that.
This is the furthest thing I want a new small group to be like.
Instead, I want it to be a community. Open to anyone who wants to join. Inclusive, full of people who will disturb me.
Something we learn from exercise is that muscle growth happens because of muscle confusion. You have to change it up. Do things differently.
One of those ways is for new people to stimulate the growth of the larger group. That’s how you build community.
How do you avoid a community becoming a clique??