I missed it at first. Jan saw it though and told me about it. There it was when I finally had time to check it out: my friend, Faye, wanting my thoughts on a bible teacher’s post about a wife not submitting and performing her “duties.”
The example he used was that she wasn’t doing the dishes. Now, to be fair, he didn’t lose me at first. I was with him during his first couple of points. But when he got to this point, I had to break with him. He said something like this: If the wife doesn’t do the dishes, the husband must gently explain to her what she must do and not do her job for her.
Before I go further, let me paint myself into a corner for you. I’m a fairly conservative male. A husband. I believe that husbands are to be the leaders of the family unit. I’m still pretty jiggy with pastors being men. And if you don’t like that about me, I’m ok with that too.
But I don’t believe that women should be subservient like what was described in the post I read. What I read was not biblical submission. It was man’s misinterpretation of what that is all about. I’m not even going to go into explaining all of my thoughts about what biblical submission is. What I really want to talk about is WHY men and women have a problem with biblical submission.
Yes, that’s right. I said it. Men AND women have problems with biblical submission. Not just the women and wives, guys. Not just the husbands and men, ladies.
We all have a problem with it. And it all boils down to one thing.
We all have a problem submitting to God.
When we all come to a place of submitting to God, then none will have a problem submitting to each other (yes, that’s in the Bible. All of us should submit to each other first.) Then wives won’t have a problem submitting to their husbands. And husbands won’t have any trouble loving as Christ loves the Church.
For the record, I try to help Jan wash the dishes often. And I help fold towels and clothes and even prepare our clothes for work each day. I guess the fellow that wrote the post I read would say I’m doing Jan’s work for her. Well, you know, she cooks and cleans and goes to work everyday in pain and doesn’t complain about it. What better way for me to love her?
What do you think about wives submitting and husband loving? And each of us submitting to each other?
My friend Chad wrote a post the other day called Gender & Equality In Jesus. I love what he said about wives and their command to submit to their husbands. He said to forget about the command for husbands to love them as Christ loved the Church. He advised them to focus on the command given to them and not the one for their husbands. He also said that we husbands should focus on our command to love our wives as Christ loved the Church and forget out the submission thing. I agree. Let’s focus on what we’ve been told to do, not someone else. We really can’t demand those things out of someone else.
Here is the thing, though, that I thought about and has been sitting back there in the back of my mind for a while now.
Are They The Same Thing?
Normally when we think of submission and love, we don’t think of them being the same thing. I think this is because we think of submission as a bad word. In this context it can’t be, though, because it’s in the Bible and we are all told to submit to each other just before wives are told to. So, what are we talking about anyway?
Christ Gave The Example Of Submission
Christ gave us the example of how we should submit in His life. He submitted to the Father. He put aside His own interests for the sake of ours. He looked out for our best interest because the Father wanted Him to , it would glorify the Father and it would be to our benefit. That, I think, is what submission is. Laying aside our wants and desires for someone else. We are all told to do this with each other and wives, in particular, are told to do this for their husbands.
Christ Gave The Example Of Love
In turn, Christ gave us me the example of how we should love. We are to love our wives as Christ loved the Church. This, it seems to me, is to lay aside our own interests for the betterment of our wives. Christ did this to the point of death. We husbands should do this up to the point of death for our wives.
Two Sides Of The Same Coin
It seems to me, the more I look at this example that Christ gave us, that they are really the same thing. Wives and husbands should be looking out for the betterment of each other. We should set aside our own interests for the betterment for each other. If this was taking place in our lives, there would be no controversy over the meaning of these verses. All of us should submit to one another and follow the example of our Lord. Our lives and the lives of our churches and the Church would be revolutionized.
How about you? Are you willing to biblically submit? Are you willing to biblically love?
It’s Twitterific Thursday where I write about a subject in 140 words, more or less.
That’s all you need.
That’s all you need to drive and motivate you.
For the Lord your God.
For your neighbor.
For your enemy.
For the world to know you are His disciples
For husbands to do toward their wives as Christ does for the Church.
That dominates our songs.
That dominates our books.
The Beatles said it was all you need.