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20 Years

Today is my 20th wedding anniversary.  If you would like to know what we looked like that day, see the picture below.

These 20 years have been the greatest of my life.  It’s incredible that before long, I will have been married to Jan longer than I haven’t been, but that will be another post in the future.

Often when I mention to people that we have been married for 20 years, I get comments about it being rare in this day and age.  People will ask me what our secret is or how we’ve done it.  So, for the first time, I’m going to let everyone know what our secret to staying married this long is.

We don’t have any other option.  Not being married to each other is not a possibility.

I don’t say that to demean any circumstances in anyone else’s life.  We simply entered into our marriage by assuming that it was forever and there is no out-clause.  We believe God meant for marriage to be permanent.  The only thing that will separate us is death.

That doesn’t mean we sing kumbayah together every night.  We have had struggles.  We don’t always agree.  We get frustrated with each other from time to time.

Guess what?  Ultimately that stuff doesn’t matter.  Something that happened 20 years ago doesn’t have a lot of relevance to today 20 years later.

Here’s what matters.  I’m committed to Jan.  She’s committed to me.  We love God.  We love each other.  Christ is our Savior.  We have two children we are crazy about.  In twenty years, we will still be together (Lord willing) and enjoying our grandchildren.

How long have you been married?  What is the “secret” to your marital success?


  1. September 4, 2012 at 4:58 am

    Congrats Larry. To answer your questions; 39. And the “d” word was never spoken of.

  2. Cecilia carter
    September 4, 2012 at 6:29 am

    I was there!! Two wonderful people!! Love you both very much!!

    • September 4, 2012 at 6:31 am

      Yes, you were!!! Cecilia, none of have changed either. 🙂

  3. September 4, 2012 at 10:13 am

    Congrats! 16 years here.

  4. September 4, 2012 at 1:50 pm

    8 years. And our secret is not going to bed angry.

    • September 4, 2012 at 1:59 pm

      Ricky, have you ever not gone to bed? 🙂

      • September 4, 2012 at 4:59 pm


      • September 4, 2012 at 9:21 pm

        That’s awesome, Ricky. Some people would be tempted to stay up all night.

  5. Arny Sanchez
    September 4, 2012 at 2:25 pm

    i just celebrated 9 years with laura…and i like your respose is that we don’t have an option…well…i like to put it like this…i can’t imagine NOT being married to this girl…i can’t even remember my life before her…and it’s all about compromise and caring about each others feelings enough to compromise…

  6. Rose Cordero
    September 4, 2012 at 2:30 pm

    Congrats to the both of you.

  7. September 4, 2012 at 10:49 pm

    Hey Congratulations!

  8. September 5, 2012 at 11:28 am

    December will be 20 years for us as well. We also entered with the same belief that is was permanent, no option out. Well said, Larry.

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