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When Someone Does Not Notice You Have Left Their Church

Recently, my family and I changed churches.  This occurred around two months ago.  Several things  have changed regarding church for us.

For one, we were at a point in our lives where  we did not want to go to church anymore.  We wanted to want to go to church, but we simply didn’t want to.  There are too many factors involved in that to delve into now.  Most of these factors have to do with us rather than anything or anyone, so let’s just leave it at us not wanting to go.  Now???  We want to go so badly that we get there early.

Another thing that has changed is the hunger inside us to be in the word of God and with God’s people.  We literally can’t get enough of God’s word and we can’t get enough of being with our new church body.

So, you might be able to imagine what I was thinking when I ran into someone from the church we left just a couple of months ago.  This person and I talked for a minute and then I was asked if I had been at church Sunday.  I paused for a second and almost laughed.  I replied, yes,  that I had been at church.  They then told me that they hadn’t seen me.  I looked at them for a second and then replied that I hadn’t been at that church in two months.  They quickly tried to recover, but they really didn’t do a good job covering that they hadn’t paid enough attention to know whether I had been in that church for the past couple of months.

Understand something, please.  We don’t hold any bad feelings about this church.  We didn’t leave mad or anything.

We simply left.

We came in the front door and a few months later left out the same door.  We probably jumped the gun and joined sooner than we should have.  Things weren’t bad.  Things just didn’t turn out well.  If churches were football coaches, we had previously been at Lane Kiffin.  This one that we left recently was Derek Dooley.  Lots of potential, but just not a good fit for us.

Nothing to be mad about.

Sure, I laughed about the person not noticing if I had been there for a couple of months.  But I felt a lot of sadness for this church as well.  It was a microcosm of why we aren’t there any longer.

What’s the moral to the story?  I’m not sure there is one.  We were a bad fit for this church.  So bad that some people don’t even know we are gone.  Some may not know we were ever there.  It was a bad fit for us.  No big deal.  I pray they proclaim the Gospel.  We have found a home.

Have you ever left a church and someone hasn’t noticed?

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  1. December 19, 2012 at 5:24 am

    Let’s hope not! 🙂

    • December 19, 2012 at 5:28 am

      Bill, if you left and someone didn’t notice, well, I’m not sure what that would say. 🙂

  2. December 19, 2012 at 6:52 am

    We attended a church of around 2000 people for 30 years and left in April. We LOVE our new church and I’ve been hired as the office manager there. It felt like home from the moment we walked through the doors.

    We too left on good terms. We met with a pastor and explained how we felt God was just moving us to a new place in life. We weren’t mad or offended at anybody or anything. He was sad to see us go, but gave us his blessing.

    I’ve made comments on Facebook about our new church, pastor, people I know there, and not one person from the former church has ever said anything or questioned where we are. Nobody else has called or emailed to say they’ve missed us.

    Over 30 years we were involved in a lot of ministries and knew a lot of people. But also I’ve known many people who have left and expressed disappointment that nobody followed up or noticed when they left. I think it’s just human nature. We’re just too busy doing what we do and when we realize someone is gone it’s already been six months and may seem awkward to say anything. Sad, but unfortunately the way the world is.

    I completely relate to your excitement at being in a new place and loving the people and wanting to be there early! We have the same renewed excitement for church and Jesus and being with God’s people. May God bless you beyond your dreams in your new place, Larry!

    • December 20, 2012 at 7:09 am

      Kathy, glad you love your new church. It makes a huge difference.

  3. philsname32
    December 19, 2012 at 1:14 pm

    I have attended the same church since I was very small. I would hope that if I left they would notice. I would also hope that it would be because I have been a positive impact there. I probably haven’t been the best at it, but I do tend to notice when people aren’t around anymore. Your experience gave me a laugh and also made me hope to be better myself.

    • December 20, 2012 at 7:08 am

      Glad it made you laugh. I try to find humor in everything

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