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Can Confrontation Be Good?

I was having a conversation with a co-worker the other day.  She had recently had a job interview.  She was asked about confrontation.  Her response was interesting.  It went something like this.

Does confrontation have to be bad?

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Most of the time we believe that confrontation is bad.  Someone has done something.  We must confront them with what they’ve done.  Perhaps it’s a spouse or subordinate.  Maybe it’s something that has to be handled in a Matthew 18 kind of way.  It doesn’t matter.

Confrontation is uncomfortable.  It isn’t pleasant.  It doesn’t feel good.  None of us like it.

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What are the results of confrontation?

The attitude of a poor performer may improve resulting in better performance and the betterment of the team.

A spouse may see their blind spot and a marriage may improve.

A member of the Church sees their sin and the Body is healed.

A sinner is confronted with their need for a Savior and the trajectory of their life is changed eternally.

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So, we are back to our original question.  Or at least the other side of the coin.

Can confrontation be good?

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  1. November 19, 2014 at 5:30 am

    I think if done in the right way and with the right spirit confrontation can be a positive thing. Big word “if”

  2. November 19, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Heck yes it can 🙂 Now, it can also be executed very poorly, in which case the answer is “no… poorly executed confrontation can pretty much never be good.” If someone is a jerk about it, or does not come into the situation with humility, realizing they are also broken as well, there is plenty of room for things to “hit the fan.”

    • November 20, 2014 at 8:12 pm

      It is hard for so many of us to not be a jerk about it. And easy.

  3. robshep
    November 19, 2014 at 9:20 am

    Heck to the yeah. It’s not easy but it’s good and healthy. A lot of times simply talking it out will make me aware that the problem is more me then them to begin with.

  4. Ed
    November 20, 2014 at 5:02 am

    A confrotation with a midget can be….entertaining, but if approached the right way can make a small person feel 6 feet tall.
    I know…probably not appropriate, but that’s all I had…

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