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Can Confrontation Be Good?

I was having a conversation with a co-worker the other day.  She had recently had a job interview.  She was asked about confrontation.  Her response was interesting.  It went something like this.

Does confrontation have to be bad?


Most of the time we believe that confrontation is bad.  Someone has done something.  We must confront them with what they’ve done.  Perhaps it’s a spouse or subordinate.  Maybe it’s something that has to be handled in a Matthew 18 kind of way.  It doesn’t matter.

Confrontation is uncomfortable.  It isn’t pleasant.  It doesn’t feel good.  None of us like it.


What are the results of confrontation?

The attitude of a poor performer may improve resulting in better performance and the betterment of the team.

A spouse may see their blind spot and a marriage may improve.

A member of the Church sees their sin and the Body is healed.

A sinner is confronted with their need for a Savior and the trajectory of their life is changed eternally.


So, we are back to our original question.  Or at least the other side of the coin.

Can confrontation be good?

  1. November 19, 2014 at 5:30 am

    I think if done in the right way and with the right spirit confrontation can be a positive thing. Big word “if”

  2. November 19, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Heck yes it can 🙂 Now, it can also be executed very poorly, in which case the answer is “no… poorly executed confrontation can pretty much never be good.” If someone is a jerk about it, or does not come into the situation with humility, realizing they are also broken as well, there is plenty of room for things to “hit the fan.”

    • November 20, 2014 at 8:12 pm

      It is hard for so many of us to not be a jerk about it. And easy.

  3. robshep
    November 19, 2014 at 9:20 am

    Heck to the yeah. It’s not easy but it’s good and healthy. A lot of times simply talking it out will make me aware that the problem is more me then them to begin with.

  4. Ed
    November 20, 2014 at 5:02 am

    A confrotation with a midget can be….entertaining, but if approached the right way can make a small person feel 6 feet tall.
    I know…probably not appropriate, but that’s all I had…

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