Three Reasons You Might Not Have Camaraderie In Your Life?
I was listening to a podcast yesterday that made me pause. The subject was camaraderie.
I like having friends and people to hang out with. Folks to share my heart with. People who will help me shoulder my burdens.
The problem is that I stink at it. I fail too often in my attempts at camaraderie.
I jokingly tweeted yesterday that if they say we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with then I’m two short. That is not really far from the truth. I spend time with Jan and the kids and don’t really hang out with anyone else
There are at least 3 reasons that I can think of why this is so.
I am afraid of friendship. Friendship has always been a struggle for me, ever since I was a kid. Now, to be a friend, means that I have to open up and be vulnerable at some point. I’m not always sure I want people to see that side of me.
Too often I just don’t want to put in the time and energy to be a friend. It takes work. It takes effort. Sometimes I just don’t have time for that.
I said that I like to hang out with people, but if I had to choose I would prefer grabbing a book and getting off by myself. I like to spend time with people until my limit is reached and then I want alone time.
Here’s the thing. I know how I am and it’s not entirely good. I need to make changes. I need more camaraderie. I just don’t know how to make that happen.
So, I’m open to suggestions.
How would you build more camaraderie in your life? Should I?