Something I’ve Been Guilty Of
Yesterday I wrote about a small group paradox. You can read about that if you happened to have missed it.
Jan and I talked about this a bit. You could say that small groups are on our mind a bit, leading me to think that we really do want to be a part of one. As I’ve thought about it more over the past twenty-four hours, I realized that I’m guilty of something that I didn’t even realize.
I have thought that my approach to small groups has to be the same as everyone else’s .
You see, my situation is unique. Jan and I have our own schedules. We have our own lives that don’t exactly mirror any others in our church.
Yet I have thought that we have to shoehorn ourselves into the existing small groups within our church.
I’m not sure why I’ve thought that except that it seems that is the way it all seems to work.
This isn’t a criticism of any of those existing small groups. It’s just that they have been created and grown and become cells of our local body. There are probably people who can easily assimilate into those existing structures. However, everyone shouldn’t follow that same approach.
Jan and I work differently than others. Every other week I am unable to make it to our Wednesday night service due to my job.
Jan and I are in the final stages of our time as parents of kids who are involved in a ton of activities. That doesn’t seem to mesh with the existing structures.
So what do we do?
We need to think outside the box. We need to seek out others with unique situations like ours. We need to think outside the box. Maybe we shouldn’t meet weekly with others. Maybe we should meet every other week or even monthly to begin with.
We both trend toward being introverts. The larger a group is, the harder it is for us to feel connected. Four to six people are about the max for us to feel real comfortable.
There are just so many options that we need to explore to make gathering together with brothers and sisters in a small group workable.
We don’t have to be guilty of doing it just like everyone else.
What do your small groups look like if you are involved in them?